Relationships should be built upon a solid underlining friendship, where by the needs of the two people involved are met. They require commitment from both parties to make it successful. Too many people in today's world are in relationships for the wrong reasons while others simply rushed into things. A few of these reasons are simply because people are afraid of being alone while for others it's more a case of convenience. Relationships are all about compromising. Giving each other the freedom to be who we truly are and respecting each other for our beliefs. At times we may not agree on certain aspects in our lives so we need to learn how to compromise. Friendships are built upon honesty, sincerity, trustworthiness and respect. We are all accountable for the relationships we are in and therefore need to take responsibility for their out comings. We are only victims of circumstance if we choose to be. Be yourself, take responsibility for your actions and relationships will move forward. Be that relationship with yourself or someone else.

So, what does make someone a great partner?

  1. Someone who is a good communicator.
  2. Someone who recognizes and respects you for who you truly are with an open ear, open heart and open mind.
  3. Someone who is honest, sincere and caring.
  4. Someone that is there for you during all that is good and bad.
  5. Someone who knows how to compromise.
  6. Someone with a great sense of humor.
  7. Someone who you can feel comfortable around and will love you no matter how many little habits you may have.
  8. Someone who is happy within themselves and takes pride in who they are.
  9. Someone who can make you happy when you are sad.
  10. Someone you can trust like a sibling, confide in like a friend but most of all love like a great lover should.

When problems do arise within the relationships you will not solve them by going outside of it. You will neither solve any of these issues by trying to mould your partner into a clone of yourself. Men and women are wired differently. Attempting to blur your fundamentally different viewpoints is unnatural and even dangerous towards the health and well-being of that relationship. Recognize that a relationship is far more enjoyable when you're with someone who enriches your life, not simply reflects it. Appreciate your differences. Learn to let go of the childlike notion that falling in love means finding someone who will be responsible for your happiness. You need to take responsibility for your own happiness.

In order for a relationship to progress you first need to let go of the past. Everyone has a history in some manner and letting go of the past is critical if there is to be a future. We can not change what is in the past, or that of our partners. Here are a few tips in how to let go:

  1. Take at look at your own past. Do you really believe you have a right to judge your partners. Remember your partner was not born the day you met them. We all have a past.
  2. If you are having difficulties dealing with your partners past then it's your problem. It is your choice to move on, not your partners.
  3. What does focusing on the past really do?

The easiest way I have found to deal with past is this:

"If you fall for someone then it's because everything from their past has made them into that person you fell for. Without that past they wouldn't be the person they are today. Live for today, create your future together, and don’t live in the past."

Relationships are about two people bringing their lives together. Sharing in each others emotions, dreams, and respecting one another for who they truly are. It takes both people within the relationship to make it work, but only one to end it. "Your number one priority in life is you". Have pride in yourself to know that you can continue on your own, that the world will continue to revolve, and that you have enough self respect to let go of someone that may no longer wish to be with you. They have made their choice and you must make the choice to move on. It is better to be happy alone than sad with somebody else.

Here are three simple questions to ask yourself, but remember to be COMPLETELY HONEST with yourself. Don’t try and justify ill truths to make yourself be right. BE HONEST...

  1. Is this truly the RIGHT person for me?
    Ask yourself why this person is right for you.
  2. Am I getting into this relationship or staying in it for the RIGHT REASONS?
    You shouldn’t be in relationships if you are not willing to work at them, if you are lonely or looking for a replacement.
  3. Is this the right time in my life?
    Are you at the RIGHT TIME in your life to give all to the relationship based upon the needs of the people involved. Have you and your partner got the same goals for defining the relationship. The same time lines etc.

RIGHT PERSON, for the RIGHT REASON, at the RIGHT TIME.
 

 
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